Discussion Zone: => General Chat => Topic started by: bloo-apple on September 28, 2010, 05:36:51 PM
Title: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on September 28, 2010, 05:36:51 PM
Is Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship unethical?
This is whats going on. I'll break it down in 5 steps.
1. I have a girlfriend.
2. I have another friend that likes me.
3. I don't like her back that way.
4. She is flirting and trying to get with me
5. I get the question of "Should I stop talking to her because she has feelings for me all of a sudden?"
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Wesker on September 28, 2010, 06:56:06 PM
Nah, don't stop talking to her. I went through teh same thing, just keep acting like you're friends, but don't get too close/personal with 'em. Just casual chat, like nothing changes.
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on September 28, 2010, 07:44:55 PM
Thanks :) After letting her know, I seriously only want to be friends, she is acting way better
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on September 28, 2010, 07:59:53 PM
When I have a gf, and I love her, I (out of respect) don't talk to other women if they like me.
The female species thinks and worries about everything, you will only push her away.
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Post by: Flashwerewolf on September 28, 2010, 09:38:31 PM
depends on how the GF feels about other ladies. :P
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: tkoold on September 28, 2010, 09:44:52 PM
being with a girl is attractive to other girls, turning the other girls that want you down only increases the ire but ive never had that problem, i cant even get 1 soo... yeah im out of this convo
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on September 29, 2010, 05:16:13 AM
being with a girl is attractive to other girls, turning the other girls that want you down only increases the ire but ive never had that problem, i cant even get 1 soo... yeah im out of this convo
Exactly, I had a feeling it was because she was jealous.
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on September 29, 2010, 08:50:00 AM
jealousy is ugly, try to avoid it
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Post by: Adelaide on September 29, 2010, 04:42:52 PM
Teehee, men trying to draw concusions as to why women do things that they do :3
When I have a gf, and I love her, I (out of respect) don't talk to other women if they like me.
The female species thinks and worries about everything, you will only push her away.
This isn't true. :P It's actually kinda lame.
:3 My advice to you is, put yourself in her position. Say theres some guy of equal attractiveness as you are that has a thing for your girl, but she claims to only like him as a friend. Would it be bothersome to you if she continued to spend time with him?
I don't think being friends with someone with a crush on you while you're dating is a problem at all as long as you're honest and make sure she knows you are in a committed relationship and entirely uninterested in being unfaithful and/or leaving her for another girl. If she tries to get up close and personal, make her stop and reassure her again that you aren't interested in that sort of thing until she does get it.
It would also help to tell your own girlfriend exactly how you feel about the friend and reassure her you fully intend on being faithful. Sometimes a little jealousy is nice to make you feel wanted, but if it gets excessive or obsessive let her know it's becoming an undesired quality and she has no reason to be jealous.
C: Thanks for writing to Addy'd Advice Column! :D
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on September 29, 2010, 05:47:44 PM
lame to you, all that will happen is drama
so cut it off at it's roots
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on September 29, 2010, 10:07:03 PM
Is it really worth losing a friendship/relationship over though?
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on September 30, 2010, 02:33:28 PM
Depends on the person
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on September 30, 2010, 04:37:31 PM
C: Well then some people are missing out on some possibly very rewarding relationships
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on September 30, 2010, 09:53:57 PM
Addy just likes drama! [nails]
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 01, 2010, 04:01:23 AM
Heck noes :3 I avoid drama, but if it starts I wouldnt ditch my friends/significant other because of it :) I'm loyal
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 01, 2010, 11:04:50 AM
I'm loyal too. :)
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Post by: Adelaide on October 01, 2010, 12:33:57 PM
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on October 03, 2010, 10:40:20 PM
:( So I hung out with that chick that liked me... and as soon as we got together all she wanted to do was cuddle... She was obsessively all over me and wanted to do stuff with me.
I feel guilty for hanging out with her and letting her be all snuggly on me... So now I am taking the position of Kinjo and staying away from that chick because she doesn't understand the fact that I have a girlfriend.
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Flashwerewolf on October 04, 2010, 05:51:05 AM
and now theres evidence here for your girlfriend to READ!
4M4Life.com-the new facebook!
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 04, 2010, 07:44:16 AM
The good thing about the 4m is that it's our little secret, she won't find it.
To be honest, I wouldn't want the 4m to be as busy as facebook, because then I wouldn't get to know anyone really. I don't like people just being a #
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Flashwerewolf on October 04, 2010, 08:47:31 AM
year, tho I think we could handle like 50 people all at once :D
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Post by: kinjo on October 04, 2010, 10:00:37 AM
ya, i agree
millions.. no lol
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: tkoold on October 04, 2010, 02:17:48 PM
well it is goofy but i love meeting girls 18-25 nowdays because they all have facebooks like 95% of them and they dont think or care who they add and they always have hott photos of themselves on there
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on October 04, 2010, 02:26:34 PM
Same Here
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 04, 2010, 02:59:51 PM
Dirty old men should git off mah facebooks
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 04, 2010, 05:21:41 PM
dirty old men should get off this planet, same with dirty old women
either take a bath, or we ship them to the moon
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 04, 2010, 08:57:29 PM
C: just put them all in one room together, they might get better after spending enough time with people like them.. walk out going "Oh god, is that what its like having a conversation with me?"
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on October 04, 2010, 09:21:04 PM
C: just put them all in one room together, they might get better after spending enough time with people like them.. walk out going "Oh god, is that what its like having a conversation with me?"
dirty old me can get on my facebook
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 04, 2010, 09:58:50 PM
oh okay next time i'll redirect them
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 05, 2010, 07:09:56 AM
C: just put them all in one room together, they might get better after spending enough time with people like them.. walk out going "Oh god, is that what its like having a conversation with me?"
i think they do get together and they are called swinger parties, lol
filled with STDS!
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Flashwerewolf on October 05, 2010, 08:30:50 AM
and free booze!
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 05, 2010, 02:50:18 PM
unless your the one supplying! someone has to flip the bill!
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Flashwerewolf on October 06, 2010, 10:10:06 AM
but then I'd be the host!
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 06, 2010, 07:28:29 PM
the source of the STDS! you are the host!
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 07, 2010, 03:25:33 PM
no hes the host of a parasite C: hes providing nutrition and shelter to another life form :o
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 07, 2010, 07:26:48 PM
that sounds like a movie
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 11, 2010, 04:15:34 PM
I think it is o.o
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on October 11, 2010, 04:51:20 PM
It is.... The New Guy
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Adelaide on October 11, 2010, 05:16:25 PM
o.o and there you have it, it is a movie C:
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 12, 2010, 06:11:48 AM
an awful movie, lol
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Flashwerewolf on October 13, 2010, 06:57:22 PM
(http://i36.tinypic.com/35830ug.jpg) is how I feel about how the topic has turned
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on October 13, 2010, 07:05:33 PM
your right, i do need a new sig
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: bloo-apple on November 11, 2010, 05:41:06 PM
you need one like mine
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: Flashwerewolf on November 11, 2010, 06:48:33 PM
I liked your old one better, bloo. :p
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Post by: Adelaide on November 15, 2010, 06:22:39 PM
I did too :Dc it was more.... persoal C: we seem to all make siggies that have something to do with us directly; I have bunnies all the time, FW has the pixelwolf, Kinjo has his flashcartoons ad~
you apples were cool beans, and the effects were pretty neato
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Post by: kinjo on November 16, 2010, 08:52:07 AM
addy halloween is over, time for a turkey sig!
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Post by: Adelaide on November 16, 2010, 10:00:37 PM
Yeah yeah yeah I like it :I and I am working on it
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Post by: kinjo on November 17, 2010, 10:20:30 AM
[off]
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Post by: Adelaide on November 18, 2010, 02:09:21 AM
:3 Silly Kinjo, thats the wrong emote! [fwoff]
Title: Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
Post by: kinjo on November 18, 2010, 06:00:16 AM