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Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« on: September 28, 2010, 05:36:51 PM »
Is Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship unethical?

This is whats going on.  I'll break it down in 5 steps.

1.  I have a girlfriend.

2. I have another friend that likes me.

3. I don't like her back that way.

4. She is flirting and trying to get with me

5. I get the question of "Should I stop talking to her because she has feelings for me all of a sudden?" 

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2010, 06:56:06 PM »
Nah, don't stop talking to her. I went through teh same thing, just keep acting like you're friends, but don't get too close/personal with 'em. Just casual chat, like nothing changes.
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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #2 on: September 28, 2010, 07:44:55 PM »
Thanks :) After letting her know, I seriously only want to be friends, she is acting way better

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #3 on: September 28, 2010, 07:59:53 PM »
When I have a gf, and I love her, I (out of respect) don't talk to other women if they like me.

The female species thinks and worries about everything, you will only push her away.

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #4 on: September 28, 2010, 09:38:31 PM »
depends on how the GF feels about other ladies. :P

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #5 on: September 28, 2010, 09:44:52 PM »
being with a girl is attractive to other girls, turning the other girls that want you down only increases the ire but ive never had that problem, i cant even get 1 soo... yeah im out of this convo

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« Reply #6 on: September 29, 2010, 05:16:13 AM »
being with a girl is attractive to other girls, turning the other girls that want you down only increases the ire but ive never had that problem, i cant even get 1 soo... yeah im out of this convo

Exactly, I had a feeling it was because she was jealous.

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #8 on: September 29, 2010, 04:42:52 PM »
Teehee, men trying to draw concusions as to why women do things that they do :3

When I have a gf, and I love her, I (out of respect) don't talk to other women if they like me.

The female species thinks and worries about everything, you will only push her away.

This isn't true. :P It's actually kinda lame.

:3 My advice to you is, put yourself in her position. Say theres some guy of equal attractiveness as you are that has a thing for your girl, but she claims to only like him as a friend. Would it be bothersome to you if she continued to spend time with him?

I don't think being friends with someone with a crush on you while you're dating is a problem at all as long as you're honest and make sure she knows you are in a committed relationship and entirely uninterested in being unfaithful and/or leaving her for another girl. If she tries to get up close and personal, make her stop and reassure her again that you aren't interested in that sort of thing until she does get it.

It would also help to tell your own girlfriend exactly how you feel about the friend and reassure her you fully intend on being faithful. Sometimes a little jealousy is nice to make you feel wanted, but if it gets excessive or obsessive let her know it's becoming an undesired quality and she has no reason to be jealous.

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #9 on: September 29, 2010, 05:47:44 PM »
lame to you, all that will happen is drama

so cut it off at it's roots

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #10 on: September 29, 2010, 10:07:03 PM »
Is it really worth losing a friendship/relationship over though?
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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #12 on: September 30, 2010, 04:37:31 PM »
C: Well then some people are missing out on some possibly very rewarding relationships
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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #14 on: October 01, 2010, 04:01:23 AM »
Heck noes :3 I avoid  drama, but if it starts I wouldnt ditch my friends/significant other because of it
:) I'm loyal
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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #16 on: October 01, 2010, 12:33:57 PM »
lame to you, all that will happen is drama

so cut it off at it's roots

That isnt loyal :P
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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #17 on: October 03, 2010, 10:40:20 PM »
:( So I hung out with that chick that liked me... and as soon as we got together all she wanted to do was cuddle... She was obsessively all over me and wanted to do stuff with me. 

I feel guilty for hanging out with her and letting her be all snuggly on me... So now I am taking the position of Kinjo and staying away from that chick because she doesn't understand the fact that I have a girlfriend.

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #18 on: October 04, 2010, 05:51:05 AM »
and now theres evidence here for your girlfriend to READ!

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Re: Talking to People That Like You While Ur In a Relationship
« Reply #19 on: October 04, 2010, 07:44:16 AM »
The good thing about the 4m is that it's our little secret, she won't find it.

To be honest, I wouldn't want the 4m to be as busy as facebook, because then I wouldn't get to know anyone really. I don't like people just being a #