Lets look at some facts...
Currently, in the US and much of the Western world, divorce rates are high - 40% to 50%! And under many jurisdictions, divorce greatly favors the women. Some key issues includes;
- Women initiate divorce in 70% of the cases
- Women almost always get custody of children
- Women may get 50% of the family asset AND lifetime of support payments from her ex
- Support payments of 30% of the ex-husband's income (before taxes) is common, the court may impose additional payments. The payments may still be required even if the husband loses his job AND have no money.
- Support payments (for the woman AND child) may be required even if you have proven your wife cheated AND DNA testing proves the child is not yours.
- Women commonly make false accusations of domestic abuse against their ex.
- Women commonly violate court order and deny the father access to their children.
In essence, marriage is now a one sided bet by men. All the risk and responsibilities are being assumed by the husband but the rewards and freedoms are controlled by the wife. In fact, for disgruntled wives in a marriage, instead of weathering the difficult times with her husband, she now has an incentive to use divorce to coerce their husband into submission. If he does not submit, she will force the divorce and he will lose his children, money and become her financial slave for rest of his life.
In contrast, men who chose to co-habit with their girlfriends can enjoy sex, companionship and still retain his financial and personal freedom. Simply put, given the options of co-habit and marriage, some men simply do not find it worthwhile to go the extra mile.
[Please note I am not trying to bash women in general nor claiming most women are dishonest, I am simply stating, based on what I've read elsewhere, WHY men are avoiding marriage. In fact, many of the men did not blame women, they blamed the harsh legal system as reason for their fear.]
Still Plan on getting married?